How to Tell if an INTJ Likes You

How to Tell if an INTJ Likes You

Recently I had to request to create content regarding how to analyze an INTJs affinity towards a person (if they like you or not). 

I’m going to address this topic of INTJs liking others as it relates to both friendships and romance… because let’s be real, for us there’s not much of a difference. 

Let’s first start off with the fact that INTJs don’t particularly dislike people in a personal sense. We are double deciders, which means our tribe and self functions (Te and Fi) exist in the middle of our function stack, giving us the comfort and ability to navigate life without people problems, or personal problems really effecting us. For INTJs our main contention comes from the control and chaos  of things. This is because of the gap between our observer functions, Ni (the vision) and Se (gathering the new in the physical world). 

Because of this, we really don’t show extremes as it relates to liking or disliking people. And this is why it can be hard to tell if and INTJ actually likes you. 

On a personal note I have had several people assume that I disliked them initially and believe that perception for years. Much of this can be attributed to the fact that I do not have a high feeling function in my stack… or extroverted feeling (Fe) at all. 


Doing my research for this video I asked a few friends of mine what signals I gave to make them aware that I liked them. The most common answer was …there were no signals. 

I do believe there are signals but they certainly are not traditional human signals. 

So, this is how you know if a INTJ likes you. 


  1. We will give you a sometimes shocking amount of intensity as it relates to personal attention. Note this attention is not in a fuzzy feeling, good vibes, fun attraction sort of way. It is intense, sharp, and otherworldly. When an INTJ likes you, it means they are fascinated by you and the navigation of your human mechanics. They are intrigued by the overall qualities of your being. I think this is why we are often attracted to ENFPs, because we are genuinely curious about them and their majestic nonchalant attitude towards life.

  2. We allot some of our sensory time for you. As we all know, time is the most valuable resource. For An INTJ to give you a portion of their most valuable currency, you know that you are in high ranks. In fact, if they give you any time at all within the span of a year, consider yourself uniquely special. This even includes text messages and God forbid, the occasional picking up of your phone call.

  3. We go out of our way to make things work for you. INTJs want things to make sense, and if we like you, we take it personally that things make sense and work for you. This deserves an example. Let’s say you are complaining of lower back pain and we know that its attributed to how you are sitting at your desk chair. We will either find a way to adjust/fix your chair or find you a better one that will reverse the pain and work for you better. As a result, it will probably make you happy, but that’s because first… it works.

  4. We will figure out things you enjoy and subtlety plant them into your environment so that you can experience them without giving us the direct recognition. If you do you give us recognition we will almost always downplay it because our S & F functions make this sort of interaction uncomfortable. We will probably make you think that it’s just a coincidence, because honestly, we aren’t trying to get all emotional about it. We want to influence you living your best life…but we don’t want to talk about it.

  5. We will study you like a precious experiment. INTJs have this supernatural drive to understand the overview and workings of basically everything. This is because we want to understand how something works so that we can predict any and all of its outcomes in relation to other stimuli and patterns. If there is something we deem as important, you can bet that we will obsess over it until our desired amount of understanding is met.

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